More Couples Are Sleeping Apart. They Don't Need to!

Myles Black, Surgeon at The Private Clinic of Harley Street, writes at The Huffington Post that more and more couples are sleeping apart because of snoring and fidgeting and flopping and sighing and talking. Bev and I sleep together, however I accuse her of stealing covers on a cold night when Ralph the Golden Retriever jumps up on the bed. Once in awhile we might say to the other, "Honey, you are snoring!" Myles Black has some sleep recommendations for kicking the snoring habit:

• Avoid alcohol
• Stay on your side, not on your back
• Identify and understand the root cause of your snoring
• Investigate permanent solutions
And
• Change your bedding at least once a week, and hoover regularly: it might sound odd, but it can make a real difference. Dust and other tiny particles in the air can lead to irritation in the nasal passage. As a natural reaction, the body creates more mucus to block the nose, and this leads to you sleeping with your mouth open, so exacerbating a snoring problem. Fresh sheets and a bit of dusting can work wonders for keeping your nose clear, your mouth shut, and your partner asleep. I also recommend buying the cheapest pillows you can find and disposing and replacing them regularly - around every three months or so.

Here's where I part company with Myles Black. I just tried Claus Pummer's Delta high pillow made by Samina and my sleep has been excellent. Key advantages include construction, size, use of natural materials and the variety of fillings ranging from virgin sheep’s wool to spelt and millet and even stone pine shavings. The Delta pillow is all natural cotton with a highly elastic natural rubber core, adapted to the neck-head line, orthopedically effective. It prevents positional strain in the neck and it's ideal for people who sleep on their side.

The Delta pillow retails for $350, but unlike cheap pillows that you throw away every three months, it doesn't compress and force me to sleep with my arm under my pillow for the proper height to support my neck. In addition, my Delta pillow doesn't harbor dust mites. Dust mites like the moisture that gets trapped in pillows and they thrive in the moisture causing us to wake all stuffed up. The Delta pillow exhales the moisture into the air and I wake up breathing normally.

Next, I'll buy a pillow for Bev. I can't wait to change the mattress for the whole sleep-healthy system from Samina.

You May Need A Sleeper Sofa

Here's a story that brought a smile to my face.

A Turkish man living in Germany with his wife of 18 years went to police for protection from her insatiable appetite for sex, Bild newspaper reported Wednesday.

He told police he slept on a sofa for the past four years in a futile attempt to escape the voracious embraces of his wife.

Can you imagine sleeping on a lumpy, short sofa for four years! Now if you are finding yourself sleeping on the sofa for whatever reason, you might want to investigate our sleeper sofa options. Whether fabric or leather, Landfair Furniture + Design Gallery has a sofa that will allow you to get a good nights sleep and thus keep up your energy for those waking hours.

Come see us today so you can awake rested and ready to go.

Bev & Mike
Landfair Furniture + Design gallery
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Sleeping Alone

For years society has struggled with a name for two same sex adults committed to each other. Is it "marriage" or "civil union" or something else. Now the NY Times has highlighted another conundrum. What do you call the room where couples go to "cuddle" who are married but do not sleep together?

In a story To Have, Hold and Cherish, Until Bedtime,

Not since the Victorian age of starched sheets and starchy manners, builders and architects say, have there been so many orders for separate bedrooms. Or separate sleeping nooks. Or his-and-her wings.

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In a survey in February by the National Association of Home Builders, builders and architects predicted that more than 60 percent of custom houses would have dual master bedrooms by 2015, according to Gopal Ahluwalia, staff vice president of research at the builders association. Some builders say more than a quarter of their new projects already do.

Most couples are not giving up sex, but can't sleep together because of snoring or different schedules or babies crying or just can't sleep in the same room.

Not everyone wants to talk about it. Many architects and designers say their clients believe there is still a stigma to sleeping separately. Some developers say it is a delicate issue and call the other bedroom a “flex suite” for when the in-laws visit or the children come home from college. Charles Brandt, an interior designer in St. Louis, said, “The builder knows, the architect knows, the cabinet maker knows, but it’s not something they like to advertise because right away people will think something is wrong” with the marriage.

Maybe instead of master suite they are "owners’ suites" or "couples’ realms". Sure, you might sleep better at night, alone, but I like my husband's warm body next to me on those cold nights and I like to be able to say something to him in the middle of the night when I know he's awake. If he's away from home, I can't sleep with my back to the door.

Besides, I didn't marry until I was 41. I've had enough of sleeping alone, thank you!

In a related story BBC writes that Bed sharing with your mate 'drains men's brains'. What an unfortunate choice of words.



Bev & Mike
Landfair Furniture + Design Gallery